Commentary on the intersection between gender trouble and the meaning of words. This is intended to provoke our sense of what gender is but also to empower curiosity about this enormously strange topic. This essay states a few things that on the surface might appear to contradict: --There are right and wrong ways to use words that are loaded with subjectivity. --"Man" and "Woman" have specific definitions (defined in the essay). --These definitions can't change overnight even if we wanted them to. --To be rational means giving people grace and patience, not only when they make sincere mistakes but even when they are willfully ignorant about things like gender or art or religion or red-ness.